I am asked "Are you alone at home now?" I say yes. Then the volley of questions. Can you stay alone? Are you not scared? Don't you get bored? The questions are laced with pity and remorse.
I did not ask for pity. Excuse me! Did I say I am detesting the idea of staying alone? You can't feel bad for me just because I am a woman. I enjoy the me-time; the only-me time.
My husband is away to Vietnam on a business trip. (You can feel sad for me that I could not visit Vietnam). I will have to stay alone until he returns. I think I am old enough to manage and stay on my own. This is one thing. Sometimes I hear from few friends how much they wish their spouse worked in the same office as theirs. I try hard not to pass any comments there. I mean, you are in each other's company at home; you even want the spouse sticking around at workplace? Wont you get bored seeing the same face day in and day out? I mean, I change teams every 3 years because I am bored seeing the same faces. Agreed spouse is not the same as team. You are going to be together until death does you apart. So why do you need the person around even at work? Common! you cant expect help in getting a cup of coffee. So why?
I once commented about how boring that would be and lo! I was given dirty looks as if I am committing adultery. Folks, simple man is a social being but he needs personal space once in a while. I am happy to spend few days alone away from any interference. Think about it. You get to watch your favorite channel without changing channels. You dont have to cook, wash or clean. You dont have to wake up early. You dont have to comment on the choice of dress :P
Oh! and I can sit in my living room and attend official conference calls and watch TV!! This me-time is so important. I would feel suffocated having a person around me all the time.