Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Been Alone?

I am asked "Are you alone at home now?" I say yes. Then the volley of questions. Can you stay alone? Are you not scared? Don't you get bored? The questions are laced with pity and remorse.

I did not ask for pity. Excuse me! Did I say I am detesting the idea of staying alone? You can't feel bad for me just because I am a woman. I enjoy the me-time; the only-me time.

My husband is away to Vietnam on a business trip. (You can feel sad for me that I could not visit Vietnam). I will have to stay alone until he returns. I think I am old enough to manage and stay on my own. This is one thing. Sometimes I hear from few friends how much they wish their spouse worked in the same office as theirs. I try hard not to pass any comments there. I mean, you are in each other's company at home; you even want the spouse sticking around at workplace? Wont you get bored seeing the same face day in and day out? I mean, I change teams every 3 years because I am bored seeing the same faces. Agreed spouse is not the same as team. You are going to be together until death does you apart. So why do you need the person around even at work? Common! you cant expect help in getting a cup of coffee. So why?

I once commented about how boring that would be and lo! I was given dirty looks as if I am committing adultery. Folks, simple man is a social being but he needs personal space once in a while. I am happy to spend few days alone away from any interference. Think about it. You get to watch your favorite channel without changing channels. You dont have to cook, wash or clean. You dont have to wake up early. You dont have to comment on the choice of dress :P

Oh! and I can sit in my living room and attend official conference calls and watch TV!! This me-time is so important. I would feel suffocated having a person around me all the time.

31 comments:

  1. i can't find any thing which should bother a person living alone..:)
    rather i am seeing some advantages in your post..

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  2. Moreover, a little distance makes the heart grow fonder:)

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  3. Very true. I call it being solitary. Love my time and sue it very nicely, by curling up with a book!

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    1. Vetrimagal,

      Yeah, I am reading A Bend in the Road currently. :)

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  4. Even,Vedas preach that for love to remain at its peak between Pati and Patni=----periodically,they must live alone for sometime(NOT THAT I AGREE WITH THIS,BUT THAT IS IT)

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    1. Chowla sir,

      Its necessary for anyone to introspect and revisit; whether its a husband or a wife, sister or arother..every one should have me-time

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  5. Bang on. I or rather we never wanted to work in the same office. We see each other all the time at home, do we need that in office too? serious overdose I say :)

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  6. B, I agree .
    We, each one of us will need our private space. How so ever we love our spouse . The bliss in being alone as you mentioned is an experience. It brings reflections. When you see your self and what has been. A different perspective may be born , a regeneration of sort. I hope you understand.

    And yes, certainly like all experiences the phase has to go away only to come sometime again.

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    1. Anil,

      True Anil. Its so necessary to even have improved relationship with spouse and others. Else its so choking.

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  7. :-) enjoy your me-time while you can!!

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  8. There was time when I would mak e all the excuses under the sun to make sure I was all alone at home .. and I had a ball of time when alone.

    I do need that me time all the time

    Bikram's

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    1. Bik,

      Yeah, it helps a lot and makes us improve on various fronts and improve our relationship with others

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  9. I love to live alone. And the work place funda is fine so far as you are in different departments. It just gives you a bit of quality time with each other every day when you travel to work, you have holidays on the same day, you can understand the work pressure, lunches together at times - it can be fun too :)

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    1. Neha,

      Hmm yeah but still I would like to use that time to be with friends :)

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  10. We love our solitude - yes, - because we know we are not going to be alone always - but imagine, B, if we were to be alone, forever, till death...

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    1. Balan,

      Thats dreadful. Man is not wired that way. This is only temporary Balan

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  12. I so enjoy my me time and only fear emotional distance in a relation.

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  14. I enjoy being alone. These days I crave it. I think it is really relaxing to spend some time totally on your own. And, I love reading in that time. Of course, for a short term :).

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    1. Yeah, helps you reflect and enjoy that peace. But only for short while yes

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  15. I just love to spend time alone at home.It has 'freedom' feeling....;)

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    1. Yup and you dont have to care about anything :)

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