Saturday, March 8, 2014

Missed opportunities?

Its a question I ask myself....

Well, the opportunities are not of the meritorious kind. So one may say those are not "moral" ones. Hey! so what? I am a lowly normal "human" being and these days opportunities dont knock on your doors. They graze it and flee away!

And as for me; luck and me have always walked in opposite directions. So yeah! thats why opportunities that go by makes me cringe.

What kind of opportunities you may ask? Everything and anything...personal networking, work related ones, a lil' favor here and lil' obligation there. Everything man!

See! it all starts because of the weird short name I have. Not very short..but short short. Many of my friends here would already know my name. If not; here it is. No! its not the most recognized, often on news name. So don't have any expectations. The name is BINDU...BINDU..

Yeah....James Bond style.

But tell me this...does my name tell you anything about me? My native place, my language, my community, my religion, my region....anything at all?

If my name were Krishna Priya Gopalakrishnan appended by a religion/community identifier followed by regional identifier ; maybe it would tell I am a South Indian belonging to such and such community and speaking such and such language. But no! Nothing of that kind. 

Its just Bindu and yeah I have a TG attached to the end like any South Indian. Its the TG that holds the meat you know. It does have my community, ethnicity, religion, language...blah..blah..blah..attached to it and no wonder generates a lot of curiosity. And that my dear brothers and sisters I hide the expansion of TG like they have hidden the original Coca Cola recipe.

Many have asked me to expand TG and yes, there is a lot of curiosity. Human beings - curios nature - cant help. I have often refrained from it. Sometimes I get away the awkwardness by expanding it to "The Great" and people cant understand why I don't want to reveal what is just a name. It would have been easy if there was a Kurien or a Gowda or a Reddy or a Shah or a Singh or a Fernandez or a phew!!!!

But no; I dont want it that way. I dont know why; its always been embarrassing. So among my cousins; we have some who proudly flaunt their ancestry (which gives you an idea of their kulam, gothram and all that origin) while I here dont have a clue of it. And to make matters worse; I dont look typical so that people can attach me to a group. People have conveniently put me to a group or origin as they thought right. I have been "mistaken" to be a Marwari, Tulu, Malay (hehehehe), Sri Lankan (more hehehehehe) , Malayalee and the list goes on.

What would you make out of a girl (ok! ok!), strike that out...A woman who has short hair, most times unkempt, wears some washed out worn out jeans, a T shirt and roams around with a sling bag. My spouse recently commented that I am dressing up like boys (This one warrants a separate post).

OK! Now why missed opportunities?  Its easy isnt it? Just think..

I cant be part of a Malayalee gang nor can I fit myself into a Tamizh gang. North Indians look at me with suspicion while South Indians feel no commonness with me and have disowned me. At work too; people group together based on their region or language. There too, I am nowhere. The favor my Telugu colleague gets just because of her oh! so! Telugu surname is something that I am deprived off.

No ones comes up to me and starts a conversation with "Neenga Tamizh-aaa?".

So I often wonder....

Did I miss a salary hike or did I miss a promotion?
Did I miss a hot-guy in a party?
Did I miss a friendly lady group?

I will never know...as long as I choose to remain Bindu with a TG. Sigh!

Before you think I am ending the post with a Sad face; here is a true incident that happened at the Udaipur Airport. It was 5 AM chilly and I am all brrrrrrrr trying to get inside the airport building. The CISF personnel checking my ticket asked me "Doosra aadmi kahan hai?" It took a moment for me to fathom what doosra aadmi he is talking about.

You see, only my passport has the expansion of TG and with that my name crosses the reserved 22 boxes provided to fill in my name in the India Immigration Form. The TG in itself is good enough to be another person's name. In my case, its my grand father's and my father's name put together garnished with the community name they belong to. I said there was no doosra aadmi and all and in time the CISF personnel realized it as well and we started laughing. Phew!

This is fine but I was close to being rejected boarding a flight in JFK because my name didnt fit into the provided boxes and I restored to short form which didnt match my name in the passport! Oh my God!

14 comments:

  1. Very hilarious. I thought TG means you are Too Good.

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    1. Thanks SG. Hahaha never realized this one

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  2. Lol..blast here Insi (I am not into 'curious' list if you flip me too ! haha).I but loved the TG thing so much and the identity hides there.What a big relief ! For the might-have-missed opportunities,hilarious again ! Time...

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    1. Thanks Melange :-) hahahaha ok! ok! so you never want to know what TG stands for :-)

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    2. lol dear again.TG doesn't matter to me.The person whom I address Insi is one of the prettiest sensible women I met.
      Don't you think that's enough here ?
      btw,thank you so much for the smiles you bring !

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    3. Melange,

      The best compliment you have showered on me. Thanks a lot ma'am. Yes, its more than enough. Whats in a name? Esp a surname? :-) Thanks to you for your encouragement and kind words

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  3. A nice one Bindu! After all what is there in a name:)

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    1. Thank you so much Rahul. Oh yeah! there is nothing in a name but a lot can happen over a name :-D

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  4. ohh poor you... better that Hati I guess... yup that's the first of my surname. I still call you Insignia even after knowing your first name :D

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    1. Rajlakshmi,

      :-) Aah. Thats absolutely fine. Insignia is special always :)

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  5. You are very original here too.
    I am with you on this subject.I did say toa crowd in a meeting thathe day we Indians start writing our names minus our surname--half of India's problems will be over.
    You havent misse any oppurtunity,you will be a trend setter

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    1. Thank you sir. Yeah though this is a satire I wanted to highlight how unwittingly we end up being biased

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  6. These surnames and family names are really confusing to others. One of the questions I have heard is "what? You don't have a middle name?"
    Being questioned about my name when boarding the flight has happened to me too.

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    1. Haaha yeah that look as if we have committed a crime. I am wary of questions I get asked during flights especially.

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