Pardon me for MIA. Not been busy, but somehow gave a step-motherly treatment to my blog and other posts.
I have few pet peeves. I think I can put a Top 10 pet-peeve list. Among the top would be people taking/trying to take undue advantage of me posing as friends. Well, they are merely acquaintances. Who is a friend? One who is available to share your joys and sorrows - that is to put it in simple and nonchalant way.
But these lots are not available when you want to share sorrows or even joy and don't bother to share. I know of a young man who falls into this category. What do I call him? Little-close friend? Friend-type friend? or Acquaintance?
This guy is sly. He wants to have fun at my expense. Dine at a good restaurant, coffee at an upscale coffee shop or use my vehicle for commute. Never once was chivalrous of picking the tab or offering to share the expenses. Worse yet, for the sake of being polite, I have accompanied him to shopping and window-shopping for the stuffs I am least interested in.
Does it end here? No? If helping him were not enough, I was expected to entertain his acquaintance(that's what he mentioned) who wanted to use my home as bread and breakfast for 2 days. The girl came down to the city to meet her guy friends who could not let her sleep at their house because they were staying with family. Aaarrrggghhh!
Now you know why I agree to all these? For the sake of being polite. But the rage explodes thousand times within me. These past week however, I have been saying NO to all the asks he has been making. Can I use your vehicle? No. Can I use your scooter? No. and No...no...no
Yeah, I am aware that the fault is mine, all in the name of being nice. I have decided not to be anymore, at least with him
Whoa! Did you say no? More than once? We must celebrate this! Really.
ReplyDeleteAmen. Let the celebration start Neha,what a Goldigger this was.
DeleteYes! calls for a party!
DeleteGood riddens to this foul fair weather former Acquaintanc using you,God sure is good for having exposed him like that and for guiding you to from him Withdraw.
ReplyDeleteI am no saint either. But somehow this didnt look right! So decided to get rid off!
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DeleteI know you are not as gulliable as you are trying to portray yourself,as on April 24th,09 you confessed to being a successful BLACKMAILER at a young age yourself.It is a way to make a living and PROSPER evenI guess, as this former young Acquaintance is doing with you,he's "USING" you thinking you are STUPID and can't see through what he's up to,I bet that girl was his girl-friend and she didn't have a whole herd of boy-friends like he told you,but like I said before,I think you are a WISE woman and knew exactly what he was up to all along.
ReplyDelete:) True Kitty, as I said I am no saint either. But this was it! And yeah I really dont care anymore. Things happen for a reason
DeleteI wouldn't encourage this in first place.It is nice to be nice but being nice has a limit
ReplyDeleteYes Sir. You dont realize whats happening in the beginning.
DeleteI would not encourage in the first place.
ReplyDeleteIt is nice to be nice but being nice too has a limit.
Your previous comment somehow was in spam
DeleteCan I come and stay with you please .. the hotel costs a lot of money ..
ReplyDeleteand Then I want to go and buy some stuff Can I borrow your car or better still can you drive me to that MG road ..
Bik
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Such pests! At least you have learnt to say no. Keep Baygon for additional safety :).
ReplyDelete:)Yup!
DeleteGood that you have started saying NO. What a pest!
ReplyDeleteOne should stay away from such 'friends'!!
Yes Shilpa. Tend to realize it after a while
DeleteI 'm read a good book "The Difficulty of being Good" , by Gurcharan Das.
ReplyDeleteOne becomes a sucker if one is good.
Agree agree
DeleteNow that you've started saying No... I am sure you will start feeling much better.. >:D<
ReplyDelete:-) Yeah
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